Actually I was searching for “Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus” by John Gray (even ustaz hasrizal from saifulislam.com recommends every human being on this earth to read it) but it turns out that my aunt had this book in her bookshelf all along so i’ve postponed the above intention.
and my my my what a book. at some points i keep giggling to myself because of how true the facts are.
so whoever said that men and women are the same are in reality denying themselves. men and women are equal yes, but we are different due to the fact that men and women’s brains are developed in totally different ways.
So why can’t women read maps?
Reading maps and understanding where you are relies on spatial ability – the ability to picture in one’s mind the shape of things, their dimensions, coordinates, proportions, movement and geography. It also involves the ability to imagine an object being rotated in space, navigating around an obstacle course, and seeing things from a three-dimensional perspective. Around 90 percent of women have limited spatial ability (me included). Most men can always point north, even if they have no idea where they are because spatial ability allows a man to rotate a map in his mind and know in which direction to go.
Which is why, now that i realise, usually mountain rangers are men – due to their excellent ability in navigation and map reading.
Now now now guys, don’t start being all smug and high-fiving ur inner egos. Both men and women have pre-set strengths and weaknesses and I feel that this is amazing, how we are all at the mercy of Allah s.w.t who has the ultimate ability to create men and women and all kinds of being.
So why don’t men listen?
This is due to the fact that men’s brains are specialized, compartmentalized, which is why men can only do one thing at a time and can’t multi-task. An excerpt from the book states, “When a man stops his car to read a street directory, what’s the first thing he does to the radio? He turns it down! Most wome can’t understand why this happens. She can read while listening and talking, so why can’t he? When he’s reading the newspaper or watching TV, why can’t he hear what I’ve just told him? The answer is that a man’s brain is configured for one thing at a time because of fewer connecting fibres between the left and right hemispheres and a more compartmenalized brain. Take a brain scan of his head when he’s reading, and you’ll find that he’s virtually deaf.”
the last sentence made me chuckle. haha!
i had the oportunity to experiment this with my brother while he was watching The Bulletproof Monk on tv. (it helps that i have a brother and sister – halfway on reading this book i now realise why and how i communicate with them differently.)
*movie playing, bro watching intently*
me & sis: *talk talk talk*
a few seconds later…
bro: shhh! orang nak tgk movie kan
me & sis: *continues to talk but softly this time*
bro: eh can’t u two stop talking? bising seh
me & sis: *chuckles*
u see u seee! i used to be annoyed at my brother when i talk to him while he’s doing something else, “im talking to u, dengar tak?” and he goes, “ahh dengar dengar” with his face still on the comp/tv. T_T
skrg baru chek paham beb. hehe.
Oh, and women talk a lot because women NEED and love to talk while men talk silently to themselves. When a women talks at the end of the day, her objective is to discharge the problems, not to find conclusions or solutions. The point of a woman’s talk is to talk.
Since male brains are highly compartmentalized and have the ability to separate and store information, at the end of a day full of problems, a man’s brain can file them all away. The female brain does not store information in this way – the problems just keep going around and around in her head. So that’s why they need to let them all out and talk about it.
But in relationships, guys need to learn to talk too because “when a man is silent, it’s easy for a woman to start feeling unloved.”
Okay lah before i start quoting and talking about the whole book, i shall stop here and end this with a final quote from the book – “We are who we are because of hormones. We are all the result of our chemistry.”
Read it okay? The world will be a more beautiful place if we all can understand each other better. :D